Children's Rights in a Divorce

Many times when two people go through a divorce, the situation between both parents is so difficult that they forget about the children's rights.  No matter what each parent did, the children still love their parents.  Here is a really good list to identify what rights the children has in a divorce.  By paying attention to and following this list, parents going through a divorce can decrease the amount of stress put on the children.

The Children's Bill of Rights in Divorce 

Every child whose parents divorce has:

1. The right to love and be loved by both of your parents without feeling guilt or disapproval.
2. The right to be protected from your parents' anger with each other.
3. The right to be kept out of the middle of your parents' conflict, including the right not to pick sides, carry messages, or hear complaints about the other parent.
4. The right not to have to choose one of your parents over the other.
5. The right not to have to be responsible for the burden of either of your parents' emotional problems.
6. The right to know well in advance about important changes that will affect your life; for example, when one of your parents is going to move or get remarried.
7. The right to reasonable financial support during your childhood and through your college years.
8. The right to have feelings, to express your feelings, and to have both parents listen to how you feel.
9. The right to have a life that is a close as possible to what it would have been if your parents stayed together.
10. The right to be a kid.

Cite - Taken from http://www.emeryondivorce.com/childrens_bill_of_rights_in_divorce.php

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