Posted: September 30, 2020
How we speak of ourselves makes a difference. Here’s how we can be more intentional with our self-talk. A few weekends ago a family member said to me “I have always had sleep problems” with such confidence that “I have and will always have sleep problems.” No big deal. Someone else told me “I’m just […]
Posted: August 20, 2020
Sometimes, when I am going through a hard time, one of the last things I want to hear is someone cheering me on telling me it’s going to be okay. Sometimes, in the middle of our darkest times, when we feel depressed, anxious, empty, full of grief, powerless, or hopeless, we just want to feel […]
Posted: February 12, 2020
I had a new friend say to me in a conversation “You are amazing”. When she said this, a couple of things went through my head and in this order: I am?! She doesn’t even know me. She doesn’t know what she’s saying. She’s just one of those really positive people and says this to […]
Posted: February 1, 2020
“The problem is not that there are problems. The problem is expecting otherwise and thinking that having problems is a problem.” Theodore Isaac Rubin You get cut off in traffic. You almost get in an accident. But you don’t. You are frustrated. You are a little scared. But you’re safe. You start screaming profanities […]
Posted: November 15, 2019
“Oh, Heidi aren’t you so cute.” “Wow, you have a lot of energy” (with an annoying tone). “How can you be so positive” (with a questioning tone that perhaps it is fake). I’ve allowed little comments like these to bring me to think my positive attitude and energy is a bad thing, annoying to others, that […]
Posted: September 5, 2019
“There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so.” -William Shakespeare, Hamlet One approach I use collaboratively with clients in helping them reach their goals involves what is known as Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (CBT). Simply put, it describes the idea that people do not passively respond to situations in their life, but rather […]
